michele Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 How do you find a good one ? My children said I need to be very nice to them as they will be choosing mine soon :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michele Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 who's choosing yours Howie ? ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dancer Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 That's your next few weekends planned then Michele.You will have to visit a few and look around, if they are any good they will let you wander around and talk to the inmates, sorry, residents.We have had to do this for parents but were looking for nursing care as well, different type of home, same rules apply though.You could always smile at the kids occasionally or. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 michele - 2007-11-13 11:21 PM who's choosing yours Howie ? ;-) After the 'chicken legs' comment - I am :D :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MandyAndy Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 Having worked in them since I was 16 I would say always go for the biggest, don't believe all the hype of " oh its lovely and cosy and just like home" all it means is you are sat with 3 or 4 others half of which you probably can't stand and theres no getting away. In a big home they have much more funding, more staff so you don't get stuck with the same one you probably don't like either, and more rooms to escape to for your own sanity. I have already told my children as soon as I get to much for them to put me in one, no matter how much I object , but it has to be huge and in a nice place. The more people in there to amuse me the less they will have to visit!! . Sorry just worked in so many of these places as I worked for a nursing agency in Manchester, Northamptonshire, Powys and Shropshire I saw a great variety of good and bad and these are just my opinions. Mandy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michele Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 janine I know that Howie he manages to cause trouble even when he's not here I just dont know . He said to tell you that he liked them shoe better in blue he said that red was just a tad umh how did he put it a tad to raunchy for him he liked a lady to look like a lady so he was propsing that you get to keep the fishnets :D but change to blue . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chatterdog Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 Tell them you'll choose your own when your good and ready to, and that if they are not careful you'll spend their inheritance touring Europe. Works with mine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 Tarty, does he mean :D I'll get someone to take some piccies of me in the blue ones down the pub on Friday :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michele Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 maggie thats it you see I told it like it is you see my kids call me Roxanne as in Rosanne Barr such a dry sense of humour I told them that they had no inheretance as I intended to spend the lot . they said its ok we will have the house I said sorry darhlings ..........spit ..you need to ask permission and by then I will of used it in old age retirement home ...so they said not where they intend putting me :D little darhlings....spit :D i told them not to beleive in everything they think :D i said darhlings did you both eat an extra bowl of sillyness this morning :D i told them straight if they have something to say they had to raise their hands and then put them over their mouths :D i said hello kids your not feeling good today are you I have noticed the improvement already :D Oh dont you just love it they hate my SOH .. :D I just dont know :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chatterdog Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 i used to enjoy watching Roxanne. Can I ask where has your piccy gone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poppy Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 Yours are better than ours Michele. Ours just said the cheapest (nursing home that is). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 I think Bruce will just park up whatever M/H we have at the time and all that his retirement home.... :-D Seriously - a tip is to get in with someone working or who has worked for Social Services who can give you the low down....my Dads just had to find a residential care home for my Mum who has Alzheimers and shes in a wonderful place now in Wimbourne. You can also go for respite care in some... so you could toddle off in your m/h and maybe book in one for the weekend to try it out.... :-> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 I think Bruce will just park up whatever M/H we have at the time and all that his retirement home.... :-D Seriously - a tip is to get in with someone working or who has worked for Social Services who can give you the low down....my Dads just had to find a residential care home for my Mum who has Alzheimers and shes in a wonderful place now in Wimbourne. You can also go for respite care in some... so you could toddle off in your m/h and maybe book in one for the weekend to try it out.... :-> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michele Posted November 14, 2007 Author Share Posted November 14, 2007 Have you ever seen one flew over the cuckoos nest . Well I'm Jack Nicholson :D sparkel I'm not old enough yet I'm only 40 ish :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Jones Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 That "ISH" is one of the biggest words in the English language Michele! Tony Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 I'm planning on spending all of my money before I get to that age - my Dad is in a nursing home, paying £500 per week until his money runs out. Then he will be in the same nursing home with the state paying the bill. *-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mick H. Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 michele - 2007-11-13 11:16 PM How do you find a good one ? My children said I need to be very nice to them as they will be choosing mine soon :D Just drive off in your motorhome and leave them to it. Mick H. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
howie Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 Tony Jones - 2007-11-14 9:42 AM That "ISH" is one of the biggest words in the English language Michele! Tony Its called being economical with the truth Tony. Ladies are past masters at this form of (self) deception, and while not strictly true its not telling a lie either. Determined to end my days in my own bed if possible, but for those who have no option, then as long as you do your homework you will find there are retirement homes that will do you proud and live up to all your expectations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michele Posted November 14, 2007 Author Share Posted November 14, 2007 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 Hmmm - how many nursing homes have you visited, Howie? I have seen far too many, and was particularly impressed with.. none. I think that anything would be preferable to ending my days in one. *-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BGD Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 J9withdogs - 2007-11-14 9:46 AM I'm planning on spending all of my money before I get to that age - my Dad is in a nursing home, paying £500 per week until his money runs out. Then he will be in the same nursing home with the state paying the bill. *-) Jan makes a very good point in her post - It's an EXTREMELY important part of your financial planning that if you think there is a likelihood of having to go into residential care at some point in the not-to-distant future, that you spread/sign/over "give" as much of your financial assets as possible to spouse/children etc, to bring you under the savings threshold if at all possible. Can't remember the exact threshold now, is it somewhere in the region of £36,000? I know of many many people who have done that to avoid this sort of "extra-stealth-tax-because-you've-worked-hard-and-been-prudent", on the clear (but informal and of course unwritten) understanding that "It's still Dad's/Mum's money really, I'm just holding it for them in accounts that are in my name rather than theirs". Health Warning: I am not a registered IFA, so am not giving any specific financial advice here, I am however strongly suggesting that people discuss this issue with their own IFA. B-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel B Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 Hi Brucie Totally agree with your comments above ... Mum thinks it's still there!!! >:-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 I think it is now £21,000 savings before benefits kick in. Then there are 'top-ups' where a third party have to pay the difference over and above the state minimum contribution. It's a nightmare. Then when Dad says' I haven't got to spend the rest of my life here, do I?' it breaks your heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest peter Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 I'd sooner top myself than go into one of these god forsaken places. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twooks Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 I'm booking a one way trip to Switzerland for my 'retirement home' >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-) B-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.