omidknight Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Get well soon from me too x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patricia Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Miss all your chirpy comments Roon - had the same problem so know the agony you are going through. Hope the worst is over and you feel better soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohgrandma Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 So sorry to hear you have been poorly, Joy. Hope you are soon back to your bubbly self. Hugs from Ria. xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tp002c784tp002c784tp Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Get well soon Joy we all miss you Terry :-( :-( :-( :-( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catinou Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 Cheeky, Mick 8-) :D :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mick H. Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 Think joy could do with a bit of cheeky at the moment. Mick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Update from Joy: She's woken up this morning and the pain has gone. We can all stop calling her 'Face-ache' now..hee..hee. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohgrandma Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 That's good news. Janine. Poor Joy, she really has had a rough time. Hugs and hurry back. Joy. Ria. xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maggyd Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Pleased to hear that J9 :-D please give her my regards and tell her to hurry up back on the the board she is missed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaz43 Posted October 24, 2008 Author Share Posted October 24, 2008 that is good news janine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ROON Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Awwwww. Ambulance just stopped off on way to hospital (at home) to pick up letter from other hospital.... now going to hospital to see why not healing but sneaked a cheeky peek on here and missing you soooooooooooooooooo much. Thank you all. Will hopefully be up to driving later in week and get home to get on computer properly. Big big hugs..... lost loadsa weight but can't recommend the method :-D Can't wait to hear what you all been up to... gotta dash as will be in biiiig trouble if they click what I'm doing ;-) Love to you all.... xxxxxxx (Hmm face ache! Just you wait Janine.) x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hymer C 9. Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Roon. lovely to see your post keep getting better, hope your back on soon. Carol. x. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J9withdogs Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 Have just heard from Joy and things not so good with her Mom at the moment. She says to apologise to you all for not having thanked you individually for your kind thoughts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohgrandma Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 Thanks Janine. Poor Joy. Sincerely hope all will be well. for both of them. What a terrible time she has had of late, We all miss her on forum, and look forward to her return, Ria. xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maggyd Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 Oh poor Joy I do hope her Mum is alright :-S thats just what she needs at the moment when she is so poorly.Best wishes to both of them.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maryowlgirl Posted October 29, 2008 Share Posted October 29, 2008 Hope all will so be well in your world and that you can soon join us again on the board. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avongas Posted October 29, 2008 Share Posted October 29, 2008 J9withdogs - 2008-10-28 6:20 PM Have just heard from Joy and things not so good with her Mom at the moment. She says to apologise to you all for not having thanked you individually for your kind thoughts. never rains but it pours eh! Thinking of you Joy, wishing you all the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hymer C 9. Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 Just had a good long natter with Joy, she is at her mum & dads looking after them both, she is not able to get home to her computer, and is getting a bit better herself but still very dizzy and needing to rest herself, It makes me so cross that with her parent who both have dementia and cancer and Joy herself poorly and yet she is not able to get help, looking after them, the nurse pops in for 5 mins then goes not much help there, any one with any practical idea's who she should get in touch with to get a bit of help that I can pass on, you feel so helpless, surely there should be some agency to help. Carol. (sorry for the rant). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Tracker Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 Poor Joy - it is a common symptom of our caring socialist government and almost every local authority in the UK who throw hundreds of millions at the emotive and highly PC children and family care budgets but fail to allow enough money to care for the un PC elderly and infirm who do not have the strength and voice to complain loudly enough. Joy should contact Social Services and INSIST that they do an assessment of needs. Social Services may well resist due to 'budgetary' problems but it is her parents right to have help when it is needed even if they have to pay for it themselves if they are well off enough that is. If they do stall Joy needs to ask for and note the name and job title of the obstructionist (good word eh!) and firmly and politely insist that that person will be held accountable for their refusal to help when the worst happens. Other possible sources of good advice are Age Concern and Citizens Advice Bureau and their own GP should also be in on the act with full knowledge of how little support is actually being given. Again always politely ask for names and job titles as it tends to focus the minds of those who generally like to be anonymous. Please pass on Dot's and my own best wishes to Joy and wish her good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malc d Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 I'm sure there must be help available in Joys case. Useful info could probably be found from one of the following contacts: Age Concern www.ace.org.uk ----------- Info line: 0800 00 99 66 or Alzheimers Society www.alzheimers.org.uk -------- Helpline: 0845 300 0336 Citizens Advice Bureaux numbers will be in local directories. Also she should explain her predicament with her local health visitor, if she has not done so already. I wish her well anyway, she always adds a cheery note to any thread. :-| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colin Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 McMillan nurses can be quite good but they will only get as 'involved' as asked for with terminal cases, there seems to be a push on around our area by social services to ensure those in need get all they are entitled too, so contact them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patricia Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 So sorry to hear of Roon's continuing problems. Please pass on my very best wishes. With regards to help I nursed my 90 year old mother and any help I had did not come cheaply or usefully. In the end the "paid" people refused to come any more with the excuse that she was too heavy for them! Like Roon didn't matter about me although in the end the family doctor stepped in and sorted the problem. With my husband who was suffering from terminal cancer the Macmillan nurses were absolutely wonderful. Their involvement came through the intervention of the doctor and they worked tirelessly to care for him and because of this I managed to keep him at home. In addition they applied for a special weekly payment (I forget the name now) which was most welcome at that time. Obviously the NHS provision differs according to the location but maybe she could start by appealing to the doctor to arrange Macmillan involvement. They also kept in touch with me and the rest of the family for at least a year after his death. They arrange for financial advice if required and also counselling for the family, particularly the younger members of the family. As you say the care for the elderly and sick and their carers in some areas of this country is disgusting now. In my area there are strong support groups for carers too although I did not have contact with them. That could be another avenue for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
omidknight Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 Thanks for the post Carol. We were thinking of you earlier today Roon. xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hymer C 9. Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 Thanks for all the support, I am going to try and get as much information off everyone over the next few days put it all together and see if there is any help that Joy maybe able to get. Unfortunately I won't be able to do it until next the middle of next week as Ed's mum passed away this week and the funeral is on Monday so have been upset and sorting that out with Ed. but as Joy has no brothers or sisters and she is such a brilliant part of our forum feel if we can help we could try. By the way as usual she sent her love to everyone. Carol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John H Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 As Richard said, Joy needs to kick up a fuss with the social services and keep on making a fuss until she gets some help. Our local hospital hasn't got a very good name but they have always done right by me and my family. When my wife was suffering from terminal cancer in 1998, a lady cunsellor at the hospital said we could have as much or as little help as we wanted. She said she could have carers at home 24 hours a day, seven days a week if we needed them. The Macmillan nurses would call in 2 or 3 times a week to monitor her pregress and arrange for any changes in her treatment. They obviously had to get the GP involved for morphine etc but they were the ones who managed the treatment. When I developed Non Hodgkins Lymphoma a few years ago, the hospital acted really quickly to give me the treatment I needed. I had a Biopsy on New Years Eve 2002, I started Chemo within 2 weeks and the care and consideration was second to none . By July 2003, I had finished the treatment and touch wood, everyting is going to plan. I think the treatment you get depends on the area and I think in some areas, you need to make a fuss before you get the treatment you deserve. Hope you are feeling better soon Joy. John. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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